This week, it occurs to me that I’ve become the kind of person many of our clients find most challenging. You see, there’s this guy—I’ll call him Doug—who’s been reaching out to me by email, asking me to tell him who’s in charge of printed materials at The Center for Sales Strategy.
Over the past few of weeks, he’s sent me several notes, each one demonstrating another degree of persistence. Most recently, he came out very directly and said, “I going to be even more persistent than you are busy,” as if this was a war of attrition that he would eventually win. So I sent him a response, but not the one that he wanted.
I sent him a note explaining that my lack of response had less to do with how busy I am than the fact that his email did not earn a response. He found my name, and somehow, my email address. Other than that, his notes demonstrated little knowledge of my company and zero knowledge of my role in it. I wrote to him that he was asking for a referral, in a way, that he had not earned… asking me to identify the person in charge of buying printed materials for my company. (We don’t really have anyone in charge of that. We print our own.)
In his emails, he claimed that he could help, but offered little understanding of how he could help. I couldn’t tell if he was selling printers, printer ink, or printing services. So I responded to his email, but not in the way he was hoping. Instead, I explained why I wasn’t getting back to him and what he’d have to do to change that outcome. (I gave him a free coaching session on VBRs, I suppose.)
Before you click “Send” on your next introductory message, please scrutinize it with these kinds of questions:
This guy’s lack of advance research turned a pretty normal human being—me—into a gatekeeper. (I wasn’t one before, really, but he turned me into one.)
After receiving my note about why I wasn’t responding, Doug made one more attempt. . . far improved, but far from perfect—it was still more product-focused than it was service-focused. I did forward his note on to a couple of folks in the company. And if they have the time to research his company and see the value in a meeting, perhaps they’ll reach out to the guy. But because I did not give Doug their names or email addresses, I would bet that he still sees me as his problem—the gatekeeper.